♥: men are from Mars.women are from Venus. #part 1

Thursday, May 3, 2012

men are from Mars.women are from Venus. #part 1

pen on ;)
2.32 am

assalamualaikum and good day everyone :)

i'm so in love with reading. and i think that sort of hobby kinda obvious now. doesn't matter what sorts of source i'd read, magazines,novels, comics.etc. tp yg obviousnya is novel opk0s! aha. but it's kind of shock for me. because i can't stay long with love novels. compared to before. i dunno y. but i easily getting bored only by reading to 3-4 chapters of that novels. macam busannn pulakss. like you know, macam..em. like a same-love-story. huahua..because you know why?. i'v own a great one. reality one. kalohh novel semua. aha. *pengsan*

anywayyy~
i wanna share something i'v read with ol of u. apa yg sy mampu cerita and olah. and and and i think it would benefits to me and u ols, so why nottt.whyyy not i share it here kan? :)

i think everyone were so familiar with this novel aite, or shud i called it as a 'motivated novels' to improve a relationship between man and woman. hence it jus not focusing on love relationship, but it gives us ideas, lotsa ideas actually about how to manage a man-woman relationship.

and ouhhh!~ it really open my eyes. open my mind. open my heart widely about my perception towards you.my man :)

oke.oke. let me elaborate some of it seems i wasn't finish yet reading this book. due to my busy-ness.buat buat busy.malas sngttt haih~ :p

first of all :

~ the author explains that men and women have such different needs and expectations that they may as well be from different planets. . yeah.sangat different that's why we need each other:), man and woman are complementary.

~ men value themselves through achievement.they wanna solve problems and build great things. they think that problems are opportunities for a solution. if the problems are too big to solve, they go off by themselves and do something to forget about it. but actually, deep down, men fear that they are not good enough or not competent, and consequently desire to be needed and trusted. they wanna be the best among the best. the best for himself, the best for his family and the best for his love one.

~ women, value themselves through the depth of their relationships. they intuit or understand others needs and automatically give of themselves to help. their deep fear is they are not worthy of love. they give freely and give to0 much but at the same time, they are afraid to be hurt by giving to0 much. Consequently, women want to be cherished and have their feelings understood.

~ when a man was in stress, he will focus on solving a problem. he will picks the most urgent problem or the most things that burden him, and become so focused on solving this problem and temporarily loses awareness of everything else including you, his love one. so0o pls, after this jgn nak tacing-tacing sngtla kan *ckp kt diri sendiri*, because it's the fact of man. the truth is 90%. and the rest 10% is; the man'll try so hard to not ignore you when he's in trouble. berperang dgn konflik dalaman ;p, and ouhhh!, plus in such times, he becomes increasingly distant, forgetful, unresponsive and preoccupied in his relationships..

~ and woman, through talking actually can make her feel relief. man needs to know when woman is in stressed, she instinctively feels a need to chit chat with you, manja-manja luahluah apa yg gerammarahsedih di hati. and, woman is not immediately concerned with finding a solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing her feeling and being understood by you. my man :), by randomly talking about her problems, she becomes less upset. ketahuilah wahai jejaka hati saya. i'll feel relief if you are here with me to hear anything from me, and you need to know, i dun't need any solution from you.i dun wanna burden you, i just wanna you to be my best listener, my pillow talk. my tears-mate. i wanna feel your warm hugs whenever i feel sad :). thats all ;)

" once upon a time, Martians and Venusians met, fell in love and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences "