the man

Assalamualaikum w.b.t

:)

to be with someone that we did not use to be with is soo susah! kan. to demand what characteristic ur prince charming shud have mcm sangat tidak baik pulak bcs everyone have their own specialty. that's why woman and man need to complete each other. bukan complain each other. hiks!. but seems i'm still a young lady with the status single. but not available ni. eh?.. lemme gives out some opinions which i'v got it from all moii ladies surround me. hehe. jangan mrah ye abang-abang di luar sana :p

hakikatnya. it's hard to find man who can accept the 'complicated' of woman. but it's easy to find man who will sigh. grumble and terkadang mungkin juga menafikan fitrah seorang wanita itu. *sigh*

Rasulullah SAW telah memerintahkan supaya kaum wanita diperlakukan menurut fitrah ia dijadikan sebagaimana dalam sabdanya yang bermaksud,

“Berlaku baiklah terhadap kaum wanita lantaran mereka diciptakan dari tulang rusuk yang bengkok adalah bahagian yang teratas, jika kamu cuba untuk meluruskannya kamu akan mematahkannya dan jika kamu membiarkannya ia akan tetap bengkok, maka berlaku baiklah terhadap kaum wanita kamu.” - Hadis Riwayat Al-Bukhari dan Muslim

yes. that's wanita. :). 

#cemburu lelaki itu tidak mengapa. tetapi cemburu perempuan dikatakan cemburu buta. ehh.nah tongkat! :p is it right?.

#senyap lelaki itu tidak mengapa. tetapi senyap perempuan itu disalah tafsir pula.

#lelaki bergaya tanda kekemasan. perempuan bergaya tanda menggatal. *sigh*

#lelaki bersuara itu hebat. perempuan bersuara itu over-exposed.

stereotype thinking. kan?. tapi terkadang itulah hakikatnya. dan hakikatnya juga wanita itu diciptakan untuk dilindungi.dibimbing. dihargai. bukan diperkotak-katik setiap kejadiannya. 

agak-agak kalau tak boleh nak tahan dengan ke'complicated'an seorang wanita itu. dare to live alone and stay single! :p

anyway. you should ever know. 

daddy's her first love. daddy was her first ever man she talks to. daddy was her first ever man she hugged. daddy was her first ever man she kissed. daddy was her first ever man she share every single things. daddy was her first ever man of everything. i love you babah xoxo! ♥♥♥

and i guarantee most of the women hope that every men in this world can be 80% just like their daddy. someone she can rely on :)

and

you must know that 

every women will try harder to treat you well just like your mom did, with her own-lovey dovey ways. :)

till then! assalamualaikum :)

appreciate us. 

we will appreciate you more 

♥

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus #part 2

Assalamualaikum dear ones :)

salam barakah jumaah..^__^

anyway, as i had been promised to all of us to continue my review on this super duper ohsem book, so here it is and we are focusing on women behavior :)

~ Women Are Like Waves~

 whattt? women are like waves. ouh.tskkkk. how sad i am to hear that. and actually my first impression towards this subtopic was errghhhhh. it is totally wr0ng! ngaha. but after i'd finished em all, i believe and 90% agree with it! :)

why is women like waves?

bcs when she feels loved, her self esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. when she's feeling really good and ohsem, she will reach a peak! but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. but u shud take note ya. the crash is just temporary. :)

the formula is = let her reaches the bottom of seabed , then her mood will shift back and she'll be the most beautiful and calm waves that crash the coastal .

when a woman's wave rises, she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls, she feel emptiness and needs to be filled up with loves.

How Men React to this Waves


a man assumes that her sudden change of mood is based solely on his behavior. right?. when she is happy, he takes credit and be happy to0, but when she's unhappy he feels responsible. and guy may feel so frustrated because he doesn't noe how to make things better.

one minute she seems happy, and so he believes he is doing a good job! but then, the next minute she is unhappy, he is shocked because he thought he was doing well. right?.

first and foremost, DON'T TRY TO FIX IT.


~ if you try to fix it, actually you are make things getting worse. if you try explaining to her that she didn't need to be upset, she'll be more misunderstood and distressed.


~ when a woman moves into her 'well', he needs to learn that this is when she needs him the most! and it is not a problem to be solved or fixed, but an opportunity to support her with unconditional love. 


~ don't prevent ur partner from "going down", or " bottoming out", don't try to rescue her by pulling her up., let her hit the bottom before she could come up. :)


~ what she needs is someone to be with her as she goes down, to listen to her while she shares her feelings, and to empathize with what she is going through.even it's hard to do, just offer her your full attention, love, support and accompany her as her wish.:)


~ and ouhh! i know all the men will get confused why she is still not okay after he practiced listening to her. right? 


~ what man shud know is, when woman goes into her 'well', if she feels supported, she doesn't necessarily feel better right away. she may feel more worse. i mean, she will be more sad and gloom. but actually that is a sign that his support may be helping. his support may actually help her to hit bottom sooner and then she can and will feel better. 


~to genuinely come up, she first needs to hit the bottom. that is the cycle of woman waves and emotions! so just give her your support and when she looks more upset, leave her for a while and she will be much better. arghh. it is complicated right. yeah. but by accept this fate of woman, you might feel much better and no stress! :)


~anyway, through understanding that a wave must hit the bottom before it can rise again, man can release his expectations that she'll immediately feel better in response to his assistance. get it? 


~bydaway. when a woman comes out from the gloomy mood, she becomes her usual loving self again. this positive shift is generally misunderstood by men. a man typically thinks that whatever bothering her is now completely heal or resolved. 

~but when there's crashes again, similar issues will arise. when her issues come up again, he become impatient bcs he thinks they have already been resolved. without understanding the wave, he finds it's hard to validate and nurture her feelings. and when woman's unresolved feeling recur again, he may respond inappropriately by saying ;

• how many times do we have to go through this?
• i'v heard all this before
• when are you going to get off it?
• i don't want to deal with this again
• this is ridiculous. we are having the same argument again
• why do you need to be so complicated
• i can't understand you anymore, you are so weird.

 ! WARNING SIGNS FOR MEN THAT SHE MAY BE GOING INTO HER WELL OR WHEN SHE NEEDS HIS LOVE THE MOST !

she feels                                    she may say

overwhelmed                          "there is so much to do....

insecure                                  " i need more....

worried                                   " but..what about..

confused                                 " i don't understand why..

exhausted                               " i can't do anything more..

hopeless                                 " i don't know what to do.

passive                                   " i don't care. do what you want...

demanding                              " you should....

mistrusful                                " what do you mean by that..

the 2nd way to react towards woman waves is by UNDERSTANDING NEEDINESS~
don't ask her why,what and how..but just accompany her through her bottom mood. man should know that :

•  a man's love and support cannot instantly resolve the problem or woman's issues, his love however can make she feels safe.
• a woman going into her well is not a man's fault or because of his failure, it's just because of herself. thinks too much and feels that she is not the best if anything bad happen.
• a man does not have to fix her problem, she is not broken at all..but just needs your love patience and understanding.

men should know that women are so complicated while there's a matter of feelings. but to help em' solve all the problems is not so complicated. just stay with her no matter what. your concern is enough rather than your effort to solve it. your warm breath is enough to calm her rather than your high IQ to settle it. your tight hug is everything to her during her bottom mood. 

anyway

" men argue for the right to be free, while women argue for the right to be upset "

" men want space, while women want understand "

:)

: )

imperfect sha

assalamualaikum :)

howdy ya alls? may everyone of u always on HIS blast! :)

anyway. i think i dunt need to shout it out.or loud my voice. just type it slowly and deeply from my heart. yeah. to make it clear and to make everyone know tht my imperfect sumtimes makes me feel really happy because i have all of u with me :)

this anak abah and mama is imperfect person.and i'v never ever had any intention to act good or perasan bagus ke ape ke in front all of u.because i realize that, i have lotsa weakness. and my weakness actually makes everyone notice me. am i?. ngehe

i often fall sick.right? and yes, i always make mama and abah feel so uneasy with this distance. i fall on a straight way. i cry on a small reason. i gave up because i was so tired. but the same things came out from my mouth is I'M OKE. yeah. because i try to make it real that i'm oke. and gonna be oke :) tolonglah percaya sy!

i'm so pampered child. or senang ckp yeah. i admit that i ni teramatlah mengada. wahaa.==' sy memang tak boley org cakap kasar dgn sy. i can't ok!. sy tak bley berada dlm situasi tegang because i hate all those types of situation. nak gaduh.nk ckp2 kasar.please, not in front of me. sy sedey nanti =='.

i really love to be loved and shared my love with ppls i care.till sometimes i forget the limits =='. till sometimes i make ppl misunderstand my way. they though i wanna be in love with. OMG. i'v my dear and only one.

i constantly makes mistakes day to day. because i'm imperfect person. but insyAllah, i will learn and grow up as a better person, haruslah LEBIH MATANG in wutever situation because i'd really determined i wanna stand by my own. tidak mahu menyusahkan sesiapa lagi. but i need you my dear one to support me.to guide me.to scold me.to pinch me. if i stick with my intractability. wehuuuuu.=='

million thnks to everyone.to my dear one who is always giving me opportunity to be better and spirit me ups! :D

pesan mama :)

assalamualaikum. hai.

how's ur holiday peeps!.ahHa. *utk yg cuti sem sje aje,kejam aite!* ;p

anyway, i just coming bck from my vacation. actually. lotsa vacation sometimes makes me tired. and sort of bored. and now.i prefer flight as my transportation. sbb maybe da jemu berpanas berpeluh dan lenguh segala. aha. bukan x bersyukur. yups. syukur alhamdulillah. sbb ad peluang nk tgk sgala ciptaan Allah. but. i'm just hope for something better. :). semoga hasrat mama dan abah utk bw sekeluarga ke umrah nex year tercapai. *insyAllah* :)

oke. tutup cerita vacation.

mari renung kata kata mama. kata kata mama along our journey to the north of this lovely dovey country!.aha. and yes. my mama was our great st0ryteller ever and my babah was her assistant.;p, so this two combination make our journey happening and feeling utk tido mmg kureng krn mama and abah were non stop talking about everything. plus added with stinky fart competition!. haha. i'm not included. yayyyy =,=. haha. *busuk!*






neway dear..everything were fully-deeply meaning. :)

pesan mama :

grab the opportunity to see all the beautiful creatures with your naked eyes, and great SUBHANALLAH. to all HIS GREAT CREATION. :)








pesan mama lg.

SMILE in wutever situation are you facing of. sometimes dear, when we are grief stricken, try to cure your own self with smiles. or phrase the name of ALLAH to make us feel better. take a deep breath and calm yourself to face all the sorrow.

SMILE to everyone. :) even to our enemy .errr, anyway enemy shouldn't exist in our life. but to those who had enemies. be friend wit em and much better not try to hate them more deeper. it was a l0ss. not a profit! :).

SMILE as it was a sunnah. our prophet Nabi Muhammad S.A.W always smile throughout his day/life. and when the prophet smiles, everything around him seems like a beautiful shines. SUBHANALLAH~ :)





lots of smiles and laugh make life more cheerful :).
heal the sorrow and depression. ^___^

pesan mama lg :

money can buy anything. but money is not everything :)

yes. i do agree with it. money can but anything but it is not everything.sometimes, ppl with lotsa money, don't ever get their happiness that's why they are so greedy pursuit of properties. and sometimes, ppl who lack of properties is more happy compared to em. :). love are anything and everything :)

bukan beerti duit xpenting. penting! tp duit bukan segala gala. it's more than enough act when we able to eat all those kinds of nyummylicious dishes., get an education, make some charity donation 'zakat', go on vacation etc. cukup sangat.alhamdulillah. what's more important, to those who are affordable, menunaikan haji itu perlu bg yg berkemampuan :)

i adore my mama and babah so much esp. on their budget of life! :)

selitselit: "duit banyak mane dapat pun, takkan cukup. lg banyak gaji lg tinggi kehendak.". * mohon dijauhi sifat sebegini* amin.~


that's what we called life. life is about everything!. life is like a novel rite? or should i say actually novel is about life. because without life there's no story and the existence of novel. :)

life.

let's take a minute deeply think!

:)